Everybody is facing different challenges in their lives and life was never meant to be a bed of roses. Therefore, it is perfectly fine, if you are making struggles and doing something to get a better life. Additionally, it is not necessary that we only move on from the unreal relations but we need to move on from many other situations too. Find out here, how to move on and cope up with your stress.
Move on From Unreal Relations:
Every person has their own personality but they have to do some compromise to settle a good relation with their partner. In Pakistani society, women are blamed for their unsuccessful marriages and are convinced to do more compromises in a relation. As a result, women not only stay stressful but they give up on a good married life. What happens next? All of us have witnessed many women around us, who keeps on claiming about their husbands and their whole life is spend like way.
Alternatively, men also face these situations but the probability is much less than of women. Additionally, relationship failure does not become an issue for them. Yes! They do take some time to enter into new relations but society makes it easy for them.
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Our Mashwarah is to give some time to these relations and do your best to keep the relations healthier. Else wise, it is fine to move on because you deserve more than that. We are living in this society but it is far more important to work your peaceful life than to think ‘Log kia kahengay?’ So, move on because life is too short to bind yourself to unreal relations.
Move on From Toxic Friendships:
Usually, people bound themselves to toxic friendships, despite knowing the fact. If you are one of those then it’s never too late to make a decision. Also, it is important to have a few good friends rather than a huge circle of toxic friends. It is because your friends’ circle develops your personality so hang out with good friends.
Move on From Certain Goals:
Pragmatically, people set a goal of their life and make shorter steps towards it, in terms of objectives. Sometimes, they fail to achieve those goals but they keep on trying. For instance, students who are interested to study medicine, they reappear, again and again in the entry test. Again, some of them get success but most of them fail again to clear the test. So here, the person should revise their life goals and have more plans. If Plan A does not work then go for Plan B and if Plan B also does not work then have a Plan C and so on.
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Additionally, it is good for you to accept if the goal was not good for you and there is something else for you to figure out. Surely, there are a lot more things to do in this life than to chase a goal for several years of your life. I am not saying that you should give up on your goals but to revise your goals where there is a gap.
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Move on From Your Younger Version:
Life is a journey and we are learning in every phase of life. Therefore, we should learn from our past experiences rather than destroying our present. So, forgive yourself and accept the mistakes you have made. It was your lesson to learn but not for others to judge you according to that. So, stay calm and enjoy learning in every phase of your life.
Our Mashwarah is to stay in your present and live in the present moment; the past can never come back and you cannot skip your present for the future.
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How to Move On?
There can be numerous situations but I have discussed a few of them. Now, scroll down to know how to move on from these stressful situations.
- Accept where you were wrong and acknowledge where the other person did not make it up. After that, forgive and forget to move on.
- Realize that there is something/someone best for you and whatever is not in your life was not really important.
- Share your situation with your closed ones. It can be your friend, mentor family member or any relative. Just speak up and talk about the issue to get good pieces of advice. If you are not comfortable telling others then talk to yourself and write. Seriously, it works.
- Try to avoid those difficult situations for some time and give that time to yourself. Celebrate ‘Me Time’.
- Get back to life and do the things you really love to do. It can be painting, hiking, watching movies, singing, cooking, gardening, hanging out, writing and reading, etc.
- After spending some time with yourself, meet new people around you and know them. Beware! find the positive people.
- Spend some time in meditation and get connected with your Creator. That’s the best feeling you would ever have. Further, there are many things that you do not want to discuss with any person, so you can discuss it with your Lord and you would find Him making the situations easier for you.
- Choose to stay in your present, happily. Past gives you depression and thinking about the future, makes you anxious. Therefore, stay in present and be happy.
- Find your hidden talents and discover new passions. It means, find the real you and work on yourself.
- Healing takes some time and for the purpose, you need to stay calm. Have you ever seen how plants recover? Likewise, it takes some time to recover and develop a better you. Never forget, every beautiful butterfly was once a caterpillar.
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