It is not an easy decision that when a person should get married and in Pakistan, you cannot delay your marriage decision to much extend. Usually, people in Pakistan get married in their twenties but in rural areas, the people get married in their late teenage too. Nowadays, marriage is becoming a nightmare for girls and boys and they take more time to think whether to get married early to delay it more as they can. So, should you get married or not? Here’s our special Mushwarah for all the Boys and Girls.
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Why Marriages are Becoming a Nightmare?
There are several reasons that are compelling the young generation of Pakistan to procrastinate the idea of getting married. A few of them are listed below:
Dowry Giving Custom
Giving dowry is a tradition in India but in Pakistan, it is a custom and if people keep on following it then it would become a tradition in Pakistan too. Previously, people had accepted giving dowry a normal activity but the generation of this time does not appreciate this idea. Instead, they want Pakistan to get rid of these customs that are making marriages difficult.
Apart from dowry, people have introduced several wedding events and more wedding means more expenditure. At the end, who faces this whole burden? Most of the burden is borne by the bride’s family.
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Now, not only boys but the girls are becoming career-oriented because they are well-qualified. Apart from this, girls are keen to develop themselves by pursuing a job. So, when they get one, they are not willing to quit and it becomes difficult for them to manage their household tasks too.
In addition, supportive in-laws are a rare case in Pakistan and the negative influence media is causing hatreds in the relations. Therefore, working after marriage is a challenging situation in Pakistan.
Not Ready to Take Responsibilities
This applies to both, males and females which creates more problems after marriage. Boys are not ready to take responsibility for their wife because they think girls can only waste their money. On the other hand side, girls do not want to stay at home and take care of their in-laws. Instead, wants to do a job and make their career. As a result, both are neglecting to become a responsible person.
Pakistani society is considered a male dominant society where the male loves to threaten her wife. The wife, on the other hand, has to obey his husband and she even accepts the uneven terms to save her relation. Somehow when the male divorce his wife, he easily finds his next mate but the female has no option but to compromise. Therefore, girls avoid to get married early and focus on their studies because education gives them the power to never surrender to uneven terms of their life partner. Even after the divorce, they are capable to support their own expenses.
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Getting married itself is not bad but we are making it difficult for the people to get married and fulfill their commitments. Customs are made when a sum of people practice any activity for a specific period of time, so it’s time to change some wedding trends in Pakistan.
Say No to Dowry and Many Wedding Events
Why giving dowry is still common in Pakistan? It is because the grooms are not capable of getting married and afford the home accessories for their lady. To cover up their incompetence, they are still following dowry custom. This custom needs to change and the grooms should take a step in it, by purchasing all required home accessories for their home before getting married.
This step can help millions of people of Pakistan who wants their daughter or sisters to get married but they do not have enough money to prepare a good dowry package. They take heavy loans or borrow money and it takes years to pay back the payments. So boys, say no to dowry and become capable of getting married, before getting married.
Mostly, the elite families have no issues to give dowry and they are encouraging more wedding events too. They need to stop it because it is negatively affecting the major chunk of Pakistan’s population.
Further, the bride’s family should not give dowry but select a groom who is much capable to keep their daughter happy.
Divide Your Responsibilities After Marriage
Previously, girls used to take care of the house but now, they have to step out of the house to earn and support her family. When she can support her family then her husband should be cooperative too. The couple needs to understand each other and do not burden each other by saying, “It is solely your responsibility.” It is fine if the couple cooks the food together and change many other stereotypes too. Are you ready to change a few of them?
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Maintain the Right Balance Between Relations
Mother has more right over her son. Therefore, she is right to get the respect and love of her son. On the other hand side, the wife is his life partner and accordingly, deserves respect and love. Here, the boy needs to maintain the right balance between these two relationships.
Also, the girls should maintain the right balance between her own family and her in-laws/new family.
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